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Best Quotes about Intimacy

“They slipped briskly into an intimacy from which they never recovered” – Scott Fitzgerald

“It wasn’t a thing I had consciously missed, but having it now reminded me of the joy of it; that drowsy intimacy in which a man’s body is accessible to you as your own, the strange shapes and textures of it like a sudden extension of your own limbs.”― Diana Gabaldon

“You don’t stop loving someone just because you hate them.”― Hanif Kureishi

“I loved you so much once. I did. More than anything in the whole wide world. Imagine that. What a laugh that is now. Can you believe it? We were so intimate once upon a time I can’t believe it now. The memory of being that intimate with somebody. We were so intimate I could puke. I can’t imagine ever being that intimate with somebody else. I haven’t been.”― Raymond Carver

“I’m certain that most couples expect to find intimacy in marriage, but it somehow eludes them” – James Dobson

“Real connection and intimacy is like a meal, not a sugar fix” – Kristin Armstrong

“Men may feel just disempowered by intimacy, by being close to a woman, and also by feeling the tender feelings that they’re ashamed of” – Gloria Steinem

“I feel like we’re all here on this planet, and intimacy is important. I can’t bear small talk. It’s awful. I want to get beyond that thing of discussing how the weather is a bit better today than it was yesterday, and how this is a nice restaurant. I want to get to what are the problems, what’s really going on. Are you in love? Are you in a lot of pain? What’s really going on in your life? I’m interested in that area, whether it’s on stage or in real life” – Thomas Moore

“The married are those who have taken the terrible risk of intimacy and, having taken it, know life without intimacy to be impossible” – Carolyn Heilbrun

“My whole working philosophy is that the only stable happiness for mankind is that it shall live married in the blessed union to woman-kind – intimacy, physical and psychical between a man and his wife. I wish to add that my state of bliss is by no means perfect” – D. H. Lawrence

“It was all about music, about getting your friends to come and see you play. I don’t see that same intimacy happening very much today” – Layne Staley

“Physical intimacy isn’t and can never be an effective substitute for emotional intimacy” – John Green

“Among men, sex sometimes results in intimacy; among women, intimacy sometimes results in sex” – Barbara Cartland

“The words ‘I Love You’ kill, and resurrect millions, in less than a second” – Aberjhani

“Jason once told me that eye contact is the most intimacy two people can have – forget sex – because the optic nerve is technically an extension of the brain, and when two people look into each other’s eyes, it’s brain-to-brain” – Douglas Coupland

“The need for love and intimacy is a fundamental human need, as primal as the need for food, water, and air” – Dean Ornish

“The deepest moments of intimacy occur when you’re not talking” – Patricia Love

“Because that’s what intimacy is: It’s a willingness to be vulnerable, a willingness to bite my tongue and a willingness to set an example of what I believe in” – Diane Lane

“Those who have never known the deep intimacy and the intense companionship of mutual love have missed the best thing that life has to give” – Bertrand Russell

“I live for sex.I celebrate it, and relish the electricity of it, with every fibre of my being.I can see no better reason for being alive.” ― Fiona Thrust

“Playfulness and Passion… Friendship and Intimacy… I want a relationship with a good flirt to roast ratio.”― Steve Maraboli

“Passion is the quickest to develop, and the quickest to fade. Intimacy develops more slowly, and commitment more gradually still” – Robert Sternberg

“Love is like breathing. You take it in and let it out” – Wally Lamb

“A woman’s highest calling is to lead a man to his soul, so as to unite him with Source. Her lowest calling is to seduce, separating man from his soul and leave him aimlessly wandering. A man’s highest calling is to protect women, so she is free to walk the earth unharmed. Man’s lowest calling is to ambush and force his way into the life of a woman” – Cherokee Proverb

“Anyone who is in love is making love the whole time, even when they’re not. When two bodies meet, it is just the cup overflowing. They can stay together for hours, even days. They begin the dance one day and finish it the next, or-such is the pleasure they experience-they may never finish it. No eleven minutes for them” – Paulo Coelho

“Life is cold. People stay warm through the intimacy of a story” – James Altucher

“Don’t set your goals by what other people deem important.”― Jaachynma N.E. Agu

“We are like a bunch of dogs squirting on fire hydrants. We poison the groundwater with our toxic piss, marking everything MINE in a ridiculous attempt to survive our deaths. I can’t stop pissing on fire hydrants…I am an animal like any other. Hazel is different. she walks lightly, old man. She walks lightly upon the earth. She knows the truth: We’re as likely to hurt the universe as we are to help it, and we’re not likely to do either.People will say it’s sad that she leaves a lesser scar, that fewer remember her, that she was loved deeply but not widely. But it’s not sad. It’s triumphant. It’s heroic. Isn’t that the real heroism?The real heroes anyway aren’t the people doing things; the real heroes are the people NOTICING things, paying attention.”― John Green

“When I attained a certain advanced intimacy with a man, and I don’t just mean sex, I married him” – Hedy Lamarr

“Intimacy is the capacity to be rather weird with someone – and finding that that’s ok with them.”― Alain de Botton

“Honey, no offense, but sometimes I think I could shoot you and watch you kick.”― Raymond Carver

“The trick is to find the balance between the bright colors of humor and the serious issues of identity, self-loathing, and the possibility for intimacy and love when it seems no longer possible or, sadder yet, no longer necessary” – Wendy Wasserstein

“River’ is all about tension and release. It’s about intimacy and solace. It’s about staring someone in the face and not backing down” – Bishop Briggs

“My great hope is to laugh as much as I cry; to get my work done and try to love somebody and have the courage to accept the love in return” – Maya Angelou

“Many people are desperate to find a soul mate, someone who responds to their deep image of love and intimacy. They go to great lengths to meet people, and they spend considerable time feeling achingly deprived of the joys of intimacy they imagine. Their attitude is summed up in the frequent lament: When am I going to find the person who is right for me? This approach to love seems to reflect the narcissism of the times. When am I going to get what I need for my growth and my satisfaction? An alternative would be to give all that attention either to one’s own life – developing one’s talents, educating oneself in culture, and simply becoming an interesting person – or to a needy society. This crafting of life is a positive way of preparing oneself for intimacy” – Thomas Moore

“Intimacy is not purely physical. It’s the act of connecting with someone so deeply; you feel like you can see into their soul” – Reshall Varsos

“his yellow eyes gazed at me possessively — I wondered if he realized that the way he looked at me was far more intimate than copping a feel could ever be.”― Maggie Stiefvater

“There are people one knows and people one doesn’t. One shouldn’t cheapen the former by feigning intimacy with the latter” – Tony Horwitz

“Love is beyond sex and physical touch. Love is kind words, a reassuring smile, one that is not jealous and keeps a record of wrongdoings. Love is knowing without a shadow of a doubt that you will always be there for that person and they will always be there for you” – Anonymous

“Real intimacy is only possible to the degree that we can be honest about what we are doing and feeling” – Joyce Brothers

“Love is a friendship that has caught fire. It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing, and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances for human weaknesses” – Ann Landers

“For a dinner date, I eat light all day to save room, then I go all in: I choose this meal and this order, and I choose you, the person across from me, to share it with. There’s a beautiful intimacy in a meal like that” – Anthony Bourdain

“Intimacy is a wonderful thing. It’s frustrating that growing up I thought it was wrong. It isn’t. Exploring your sexuality is important when you’re growing up” – Amanda Seyfried

“Even so, there were times I saw freshness and beauty. I could smell the air, and I really loved rock ‘n’ roll. Tears were warm, and girls were beautiful, like dreams. I liked movie theaters, the darkness and intimacy, and I liked the deep, sad summer nights.”― Haruki Murakami

“See, don’t just look. Your partner is so much more than their appearance. It’s how kind their heart is, how lovely they smile, how much they care and have compassion, how generous and giving they are which becomes much more attractive” – Suzan Battah

“The opposite of Loneliness is not Togetherness, It’s Intimacy” – Richard Bach

“Her definition of romance was absentminded intimacy, the way someone else’s hand stray to your plate of food.I replied: no, that’s just friendship; romance is always knowing exactly where that someone else’s hands are. She smiled and said, there was a time I thought that way, too. But at the heart of the romance is the knowledge that those hands may wander off elsewhere, but somehow through luck or destiny or plain blind groping they’ll find a way back to you, and maybe you’ll be smart enough then to be grateful for everything that’s still possible, in spit of your own weaknesses- and his.”― Kamila Shamsie

“Being apart was wrong. Simply lying side by side did more for a relationship than words. A warm bed, a nest of animal intimacy. Words could be misunderstood, whereas loving companionship bred trust” – Michel Faber

“Patience and trust fuel the fires of intimacy” ― P.J. Bayliss

“There is intimacy during sex only if there was intimacy before it.” ― Marty Rubin

“It was the wildness of it that got me going: the primal lust, the sheer needs of two people in heat, quickly finding ways to express their sacred hunger to each other in animal passion” – Fiona Thrust

“Our culture is so celebrity-obsessed that for individuals to show they matter, they need to display their intimacy to fame” – Susan Isaacs

“This is intimacy: the trading of stories in the dark” – Elizabeth Gilbert

“Intimacy doesn’t have all that much to do with back seats of cars. Real intimacy is brushing your teeth together” – Gabrielle Zevin

“I have been driven by romance my whole life because I crave the intimacy that comes with that” – Yolanda Hadid

“He showed me his scars, and in return he let me pretend that I had none” – Madeline Miller

“Love is a serious mental illness” – Plato

“Sex is worship. If we can’t f*ck our bodies, our souls and hearts to God, it ain’t sensual enough. ” ― Lebo Grand

“I wonder if this is how people always get close: They heal each other’s wounds; they repair the broken skin” – Lauren Oliver

“In my fiction, I pursue this idea of intimacy, but also – philosophically, politically – I just feel like that’s an interesting question for me. How much can we share with other people? I’m not interested in human individuality; I don’t even know what that means” – Sally Rooney

“Perhaps my problem in marriage – and it is the problem of many women – was to want both intimacy and independence. It is a difficult line to walk, yet both needs are important to a marriage” – Hedy Lamarr

“Don’t blow off another’s candle for it won’t make yours shine brighter.”― Jaachynma N.E. Agu

“there’s nothing more intimate in life than simply being understood. And understanding someone else” – Brad Meltzer

“That night we push our cots just a little closer together, and look into each other’s eyes in the moments before we fall asleep. When he finally drifts off, our fingers are twisted together in the space between the beds.I smile a little, and let myself go.”― Veronica Roth

“It is not time or opportunity that is to determine intimacy;—it is disposition alone. Seven years would be insufficient to make some people acquainted with each other, and seven days are more than enough for others” – Jane Austen

“I hate solitude, but I’m afraid of intimacy. The substance of my life is a private conversation with myself which to turn into a dialogue would be equivalent to self-destruction. The company which I need is the company which a pub or a cafe will provide. I have never wanted a communion of souls. It’s already hard enough to tell the truth to oneself.”― Iris Murdoch

“That’s one of the great lies of intimacy, to pretend you know everything – you cannot. No matter how close you’ve been, over however many years, there remain secrets. I think we all know that – that you don’t tell everybody everything” – Siri Hustvedt

“Real intimacy is a sacred experience. It never exposes its secret trust and belonging to the voyeuristic eye of a neon culture. Real intimacy is of the soul, and the soul is reserved” – John O’Donohue

“It can be difficult to leave a long-term relationship, even when our inner-wisdom tells us it’s time to let go. At this point, we can choose let go and endure the intense pain of leaving behind the familiar to make way for a new chapter in our life. Or we can stay and suffer a low-grade pain that slowly eats away at our heart and soul, like an emotional cancer. Until we wake up, one day and realize, we are buried so deep in the dysfunction of the relationship that we scarcely remember who we were and what we wanted and needed to be.”― Jaeda DeWalt

“I don’t have any fear of intimacy, but rather thrive on it, which is rare in a public person” – Jack Nicholson

“To grow in our ability to love ourselves we need to receive love as well” – John Gray

“Prenups are so unromantic – a sign of distrust, not love. Time for a reality check, my friends. First, drawing up a prenuptial agreement together is a sign of incredible trust and financial openness – you’re fooling yourself if you think you can achieve complete intimacy without it” – Suze Orman

“Two people making love, she once said, is like one drowned person resuscitating the other” – Anatole Broyard

“The real heroes anyway aren’t the people doing things; the real heroes are the people NOTICING things, paying attention” – John Green

“If fear is the great enemy of intimacy, love is its true friend” – Henri Nouwen

“Most people are slow to champion love because they fear the transformation it brings into their lives. And make no mistake about it: love does take over and transform the schemes and operations of our egos in a very mighty way.”― Aberjhani

“I taste him, and I realize I have been starving” – Jodi Picoult

“If you love a person and live the whole life with him or with her, a great intimacy will grow and love will have deeper and deeper revelations to make to you. It is not possible if you go on changing partners very often. It is as if you go on changing a tree from one place to another, then another; then it never grows roots anywhere. To grow roots, a tree needs to remain in one place. Then it goes deeper; then it becomes stronger. Intimacy is good, and to remain in one commitment is beautiful, but the basic necessity is love. If a tree is rooted in a place where there are only rocks and they are killing the tree, then it is better to remove it. Then don’t insist that it should remain in one place. Remain true to life – remove the tree, because now it is going against life” – Osho

“When you’re writing, you think: How does intimacy happen at work? You don’t know who your reader is, woman, man, child, black person, Asian, who knows?” – Claudia Rankine

“Intimacy is being seen and known as the person you truly are” – Amy Bloom

“His eyes are open, watching my flushed face, my ragged breathing. I try to stop myself from making embarrassing noises. It’s more intimate than the way he’s touching me, to be looked at like that. I hate that he knows what he’s doing and I don’t. I hate being vulnerable. I hate that I throw my head back, baring my throat. I hate the way I cling to him, the nails of one hand digging into his back, my thoughts splintering, and the single last thing in my head: that I like him better than I’ve ever liked anyone and that of all the things he’s ever done to me, making me like him so much is by far the worst.”― Holly Black

“My friends tell me I have an intimacy problem. But they don’t really know me” – Garry Shandling

“If after I die, people want to write my biography, there is nothing simpler. They only need two dates: the date of my birth and the date of my death. Between one and another, every day is mine.”― Fernando Pessoa

“It is an absolute human certainty that no one can know his own beauty or perceive a sense of his own worth until it has been reflected back to him in the mirror of another loving, caring human being” – John Joseph Powell

“In every friendship hearts grow and entwine themselves together, so that the two hearts seem to make only one heart with only a common thought. That is why separation is so painful; it is not so much two hearts separating, but one being torn asunder.”― Fulton J. Sheen

“True intimacy is a human constant. People of all types find it equally hard to achieve, equally precious to hold. Age, education, social status, make little difference here; even genius does not presuppose the talent to reveal one’s self completely and completely absorb one’s self in another personality. Intimacy is to love what concentration is to work: a simultaneous drawing together to attention and release of energy” – Robert Grudin

“Intimacy comes from being yourself on the stage and making the audience feel, without trying, that you’re sittin’ down there with ’em, playing, and that can happen in a big hall if you have a good audience that wants to listen” – Doc Watson

“They slipped briskly into an intimacy from which they never recovered.” — F. Scott Fitzgerald

“Intimacy requires courage because the risk is inescapable. We cannot know at the outset how the relationship will affect us” – Rollo May

“The intention and outcome of vulnerability are trust, intimacy, and connection. The outcome of oversharing is distrust, disconnection – and usually a little judgment” – Brene Brow

“The trick. . .is to find the balance between the bright colors of humor and the serious issues of identity, self-loathing, and the possibility for intimacy and love when it seems no longer possible or, sadder yet, no longer necessary.”― Wendy Wasserstein

“The highest form of love is the love that allows for intimacy without the annihilation of difference” – Parker J. Palmer

“True love is not a hide and seeks game: in true love, both lovers seek each other” – Michael Bassey Johnson

“The only thing I have never known is true intimacy with a man. I absolutely wanted to discover that before dying” – Jane Fonda

“Intimacy is a totally different dimension. It is allowing the other to come into you, to see you as you see yourself” – Osho

“Interreligious dialogue is extremely important for religious people as well as secular people or non-believers. They should participate, and they should be encouraged to have interreligious dialogue because the dialogue is a channel or an instrument to promote intimacy between individual” – Lobsang Tenzin

“Intimacy is not something that just happens between two people; it is a way of being alive. At every moment, we are choosing either to reveal ourselves or to protect ourselves, to value ourselves, or to diminish ourselves, to tell the truth, or to hide. To dive into life or to avoid it. Intimacy is making the choice to be connected to, rather than isolated from, our deepest truth at that moment” – Geneen Roth

“If you age with somebody, you go through so many roles – you’re lovers, friends, enemies, colleagues, strangers; you’re brother and sister. That’s what intimacy is if you’re with your soulmate” – Cate Blanchett

“A hostility to modernity is shared by ideologies that have nothing else in common – nostalgia for moral clarity, small-town intimacy, family values, primitive communism, ecological sustainability, communitarian solidarity, or harmonies with the rhythms of nature” – Steven Pinker

“Globalisation has obliterated distance, not just physically but also, most dangerously, mentally. It creates the illusion of intimacy when, in fact, the mental distances have changed little. It has concertinaed the world without engendering the necessary respect, recognition, and tolerance that must accompany it” – Martin Jacques

“Can the purpose of a relationship be to trigger our wounds? In a way, yes, because that is how healing happens; darkness must be exposed before it can be transformed. The purpose of an intimate relationship is not that it be a place where we can hide from our weaknesses, but rather where we can safely let them go. It takes strength of character to truly delve into the mystery of an intimate relationship because it takes the strength to endure a kind of psychic surgery, an emotional and psychological, and even spiritual initiation into the higher Self. Only then can we know an enchantment that lasts” – Marianne Williamson